January 5, 2018 | Jon Mostad
I will write about being ecological in relationships where the spoken language is a tool. What can ecological be in such a context?
In the coming week no 01-2018, my Instagram posts will reflect on being ecological in relations. I do the reflections through quotes and captions, linked to illustrative images. Feel free to follow me on https://www.instagram.com/mostadjon/.
What does ecology mean?
The word is fond of most and widely used in our time. We know that the word comes from Greek and can be understood as "the teaching of households". How we "keep house" is a great metaphor for what I seek to convey. Ecology is the teaching of interactions between organisms and the environment. Ecology is a scientific discipline that has transformed into a social significance and practical function. Today, the challenge for Man is to act ecologically. We are recognized if we do. This is a short drawing of the journey of the word. I allow ecology to be a metaphor of how the language has a dimension that affects the interaction of the relationship we have with other people.
When I "speak ecologically," what are you sensing? Do we find a dimension in our language where we can know the effect of spoken ecology? I say yes, and will seek to clarify what I mean.
Language is perhaps our most important tool in relationships. Where we have a language, we have a world. We are complex beings and have developed many languages. Here and now I am concerned with the spoken language.
Language collects and connects, confuses and splits. In my previous blog, I wrote about the language as an outline for action. I called the outlines modalities and described them. The first thing I see is the language as a physical source and I called this modality globalism. The ability of the language to see and accommodate more than the whole belongs to the global modality. The second modality I see is the language as a supporting source. The ability of the language to grab the necessary conversations and solve situations that are difficult. In my coming blog I will present the third modality; feminin.
When language is used to "trample trees" and do the trampilng in a form and with a content that renews, we see the ecological modality of the language.
When the language is ecological, the relationship gets the chance to grow and turn out to be sustainable. Let me give you an example. You have a colleague who is still late for work. The fact that the other one comes too late creates trouble for you. You have three choices. You can overlook the problem. This can be a strategy that works if you really manage to meet the action being late, from somewhere in your inner place where you hold the action without spending energy on it. Secondly you can express irritation in the hope that this works on the other side, for example, by express "Why are you always late?". This can be a good strategy if you manage to put away the irritation for your own sake, but where have you placed your bad feeling? On the other. How much longer have you come then? The other one would like to look for an occasion where to return all back on you. The third possibility is the one I call ecological. When your colleague gets late again, once more, you use wonder as strategy. You ask with an empty and opened mind "What prevents you coming to time?". You get hold of the action "get too late" and you acknowledge that you are affected by it. The wonderful thing is that you rule out irritation, guilt and punishment. The other is met, gets the opportunity to explain and together you can make a plan that solves the situation. You have talked ecology as modality.
Speaking ecological is to use the language as a tool to take down what is to be taken down, in a form and with a content that heals.
Jon